Couples Therapy

Are You and Your Partner Struggling With Your Relationship and Wondering What You Can Do to Make Things Better?

couples-counseling-wichita-fallsHave you and your partner become more like roommates than soul mates? Do you feel disappointed and discouraged because your relationship has somehow gotten “off-track” and isn’t going like you expected? Do you find yourself wondering if you will ever again be happy the way you once were in your relationship? Or perhaps you are afraid that, if things don’t turn around soon, you will never again be the loving couple you once were?

It is not unusual for previously happy couples to experience “bumps” in their relationship that can leave them reeling and in need of couples therapy. Many “bumps” occur around common life transitions, such as adding children to the family and career changes, but others, such as infidelity, can be quite unexpected and can leave deep wounds. Couples experiencing these kinds of problems often feel the strain in a variety of ways.

Have You Found That…

  • Small, everyday conversations lead to arguments and power struggles?
  • Distance and disconnection between you has grown so wide that it is difficult (or impossible) for you to approach one another?
  • You feel unappreciated, misunderstood, or ignored by your partner and feel angry, frustrated, or resentful toward them in return?
  • Your efforts to connect with your partner have either not worked or made things between you even worse?

If You Have Felt Any of These Things, Don’t Give Up!

I am Dr. Kelly Guthrie, a relationship expert who has been practicing in the Wichita Falls area for 10 years. I help couples repair and strengthen their relationship  so that it is again filled with connection, excitement, and intimacy.

You and Your Partner Are Not Alone

Being in a relationship that is not living up to your expectations can be deeply and bitterly disappointing. Many people in this situation often feel lonely, hopeless, fearful, angry, and/or resentful, especially if their efforts to resolve the problems have led to even more conflict or a greater sense of disconnection. You are not alone if you are wondering how to again become the loving couple you once were.

Your Relationship Can Get Much Better

All relationships are tested from time to time. Sometimes couples can successfully resolve problems on their own. At other times, however, couples can become “stuck” as they attempt to work through their problems and need some assistance getting back on-track. If you are stuck, I can help you:

  • Understand the role you each play in creating and maintaining the conflict and/or disconnection in your relationship
  • Productively manage or resolve current conflicts
  • Effectively communicate your concerns and needs to one another
  • Heal past hurts and resentments.
  • Bring back joy and affection to your relationship
  • Rebuild emotional and physical intimacy with your partner
  • Create an intimate bond filled with affection and trust.

But Wait…

We’ve been to couples therapy before and it didn’t work. How do I know this time will be different?

I can definitely understand you feeling hesitant, and perhaps even a little pessimistic about trying couples therapy again if your previous experience(s) were unsuccessful. Couples therapy is highly skilled work and, quite honestly, many therapists lack the training and expertise necessary to work effectively with couples. What often ends up happening is that the couple spends session after session rehashing their grievances while the therapist either observes the argument or, even worse, serves as a judge who dispenses blame without offering solutions. This approach rarely accomplishes anything and can actually harm the relationship. Choosing a skilled relationship therapist could make all the difference for you this time.

We’re dealing with more than just a little “bump.” Our problems are so numerous and/or big that I am afraid we are beyond help.

Couples who are attempting to resolve chronic and/or serious relationship problems often feel overwhelmed and hopeless. Many couples like this who I have worked with realized early in treatment, sometimes after only one session, that their problems were not insurmountable. Even complicated problems can, in fact, be effectively managed and/or resolved when both members of the couple are committed to being in the relationship and are willing to try the proven relationship-building techniques I teach them.

This sounds like a lot of work. I don’t know if I have the energy to do this.

This is one of the most common concerns among the couples I have seen. Not surprisingly, couples who feel stuck in their relationship are often emotionally drained and have very little emotional energy left to put back into their relationship. What these couples find in my practice is that the renewed hope they experience as they begin to rebuild and strengthen their relationship motivates them to work harder than they ever thought was possible.

There are a lot of therapists in town, why should we choose you?

This is a great question! There are several things that set me apart from other therapists.

  • My approach to couples therapy involves focusing on the core issues that need to be addressed and teaching couples the skills they need to break the negative cycles that have caused damage in the past.
  • My clients tell me that they feel like I understand what they are experiencing and describe me as warm, empathic, open and non-judgmental.
  • I provide a safe and accepting environment for discussing and processing relationship issues regardless of sexual, gender, cultural or spiritual orientation.
  • I offer a 20-minute consultation at no charge so you can see how you feel and whether you think we are a good match for one another. If you do not feel like we are a good fit for any reason, I will gladly refer you to another therapist who might be a better match for you so you can get the help you are seeking.

Bottom Line…

  • Some conflict is normal but too much can be destructive. Don’t let it tear the two of you apart.
  • Distance and disconnection are quieter than conflict but are just as damaging. You need to break this pattern.
  • Your relationship problems won’t just “go away” on their own. You need to turn things around now.
  • Unresolved problems can, over time, strain a relationship to the point where irreparable damage is done. Don’t let this happen.

I can help you and your partner repair the damage and create a happier, healthier relationship

I invite you to contact me if you have any questions or would like more information about how I might help you.

Kelly