Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling

Loneliness…or Being Alone

Posted by on Jul 30, 2020 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Loneliness…or Being Alone

I often hear clients say that they don’t want to be in their relationship anymore but are reluctant to end it because they are worried about being alone. This is a very common phenomenon and is one of the top three reasons why partners often choose to stay in a relationship. Here are five tips if you are in this situation. 1. Being Alone Versus Being Lonely I have found that clients often equate being alone with being lonely; however, these are two very different things. Understanding the difference is important because the approach for dealing with aloneness is different than how to handle...

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Grieving the Breakup or End of a Relationship

Posted by on Jun 15, 2020 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Grieving the Breakup or End of a Relationship

Grief is a normal response when someone dies. However, it is also normal to grieve after all kinds of losses; a job, a move, or experiencing a serious health condition. The end of a relationships falls into this category as well. Even though no one dies, it’s still understandable to grieve after the end of a relationship. Here’s what to do when a relationship is over: The Five Stages of Grief The Kübler-Ross model of grief describes five stages of grief.  Here is what they look like: Denial:  Someone may deny that the relationship is over and refuse to accept or believe that it has...

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Parental Alienation Part III: What Targeted Parents Can Do About Alienation

Posted by on May 30, 2019 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Parental Alienation Part III: What Targeted Parents Can Do About Alienation

In this final part of our three-part series on alienation, we are going to discuss what targeted parents can do about alienation between themselves and their children. As mentioned before, we can define alienation as a situation where one parent attempts to undermine the authority, connection, and relationship of the other parent and their children. This can occur with parents who are separated or divorced and who both have visitation rights or joint custody of their children. It is a painful experience for any targeted parent to have to endure and it’s very hard to reverse the effects of...

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Parental Alienation Part II: The Warning Signs of Parental Alienation with Kids

Posted by on May 15, 2019 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Parental Alienation Part II: The Warning Signs of Parental Alienation with Kids

Parental alienation is the successful efforts of one parent to undermine the authority and connection with another parent and their children. We previously described the 17 behaviors associated with alienation and how they can impact the relationship between a targeted parent and child. However, not all children respond to alienation from the alienating parent. In fact, they will sometimes resist and push back against lower-level forms of alienation. Still, it is much harder for them to do so when the alienation is more severe. If the targeted parent isn’t seeing how the alienating parent is...

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Parental Alienation Part I: Is Your Ex Alienating the Kids From You?

Posted by on Apr 30, 2019 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Parental Alienation Part I: Is Your Ex Alienating the Kids From You?

What the children of divorced parents want is to maintain a close relationship with their parents. They are certainly not interested in getting caught up in their parents’ relationship conflict. Unfortunately, some children find themselves ensnared in a situation where one parent attempts to alienate them from the other parent.   Parental alienation can cause significant emotional damage to the child and their relationship with the targeted parent. This is damage that is difficult to reverse at best, and permanent at worst. What is Parental Alienation? We can consider the definition of...

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How to Know if Getting Back Together after Breaking Up is the Right Thing to Do

Posted by on Mar 15, 2019 in Couples Counseling, Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on How to Know if Getting Back Together after Breaking Up is the Right Thing to Do

If you’ve found yourself breaking up with a partner but then getting back together again, you’re not alone. Research shows that one-half to two-thirds of adults have been in this kind of situation.   It’s called relationship cycling. Essentially, partners end a relationship but wind up getting back together again. In fact, relationship cycling can happen more than once with the same set of partners! However, getting back together isn’t always the romantic fairytale ending that we’d like it to be. If you find yourself in relationship cycling, it’s important to consider these thoughts: Getting...

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