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Loneliness…or Being Alone

Posted by on Jul 30, 2020 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Loneliness…or Being Alone

I often hear clients say that they don’t want to be in their relationship anymore but are reluctant to end it because they are worried about being alone. This is a very common phenomenon and is one of the top three reasons why partners often choose to stay in a relationship. Here are five tips if you are in this situation. 1. Being Alone Versus Being Lonely I have found that clients often equate being alone with being lonely; however, these are two very different things. Understanding the difference is important because the approach for...

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How to Date During a Pandemic

Posted by on Jul 15, 2020 in Couples Counseling For One | Comments Off on How to Date During a Pandemic

Human beings have a strong need to interact and connect with other people. Stressful or anxious circumstances, such as the current COVID-19 crisis, can heighten this need. Masks, social distancing, and other measures necessary to slow the spread of the virus also make it more challenging to form these connections. So how are people supposed to date during a pandemic? Should I Date? So many people are struggling these days with loneliness and what to do about it. The question facing many singles is “Should I or can I date?” The answer is yes!...

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Understanding Inequality and Why It Matters

Posted by on Jun 30, 2020 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Understanding Inequality and Why It Matters

Several recent events, such as the debate over the Equal Rights Amendment, the death of George Floyd in Minneapolis, and the cancellation of many Pride month celebrations due to COVID-19, have really got me thinking. I’m thinking about the inequality experienced by minority groups in this country. When I say minority, I am talking about a group of people that does not enjoy the same privileges or rights as another group. This is due to their race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender, disability status, and/or religion. I believe...

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Grieving the Breakup or End of a Relationship

Posted by on Jun 15, 2020 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Grieving the Breakup or End of a Relationship

Grief is a normal response when someone dies. However, it is also normal to grieve after all kinds of losses; a job, a move, or experiencing a serious health condition. The end of a relationships falls into this category as well. Even though no one dies, it’s still understandable to grieve after the end of a relationship. Here’s what to do when a relationship is over: The Five Stages of Grief The Kübler-Ross model of grief describes five stages of grief.  Here is what they look like: Denial:  Someone may deny that the relationship...

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Teletherapy FAQ’s

Posted by on Apr 30, 2020 in Couples Counseling For One | Comments Off on Teletherapy FAQ’s

Many communities in the U.S. are under stay-at-home orders because of the COVID-19 pandemic. We know we may continue to be quarantined off and on for a while. We also know we need to distance ourselves from other people in order to stay safe. Ironically, we are now spending much more time with our partners and families. 24-7 in many cases. This forced togetherness can strain even the best relationships. For those who were already struggling in their relationships, staying at home can make things even worse. That’s why I want to provide some...

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How to Keep COVID-19 From Ruining Your Relationship

Posted by on Apr 15, 2020 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on How to Keep COVID-19 From Ruining Your Relationship

Many communities in the U.S. are under stay-at-home orders because of the COVID-19 pandemic. We know we may continue to be quarantined off and on for a while. We also know we need to distance ourselves from other people in order to stay safe. Ironically, we are now spending much more time with our partners and families. 24-7 in many cases. This forced togetherness can strain even the best relationships. For those who were already struggling in their relationships, staying at home can make things even worse. That’s why I want to provide some...

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When Humor Goes Too Far

Posted by on Feb 29, 2020 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on When Humor Goes Too Far

A sense of humor is definitely a sought-out quality in a partner. We all want someone who laughs and is amusing. No one says that they want a partner who is boring! For the most part, humor adds a lot of value to a relationship. It helps keep us emotionally connected, is used in flirting and sexual attraction, and helps diffuse tension or conflict. However, humor can go too far and cross that line from a positive attribute to a destructive character trait. The line is crossed when the point is not to amuse your partner. Rather, humor is used...

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5 Tips to Keep Political Differences from Ruining Your Relationship

Posted by on Feb 15, 2020 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on 5 Tips to Keep Political Differences from Ruining Your Relationship

Regardless of where people fall on the political spectrum, most agree that politics have become increasingly divisive in recent years. In my corner of the country, it’s very much the case that Trump supporters are the majority and non-Trump supporters, whether they be Democrats, independents, and some Republicans, are in the minority. I actually had one client who came to see me specifically because they were struggling with the fact that some important people in their life supported President Trump. A number of other clients have brought up...

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Haven’t Dated in a While? Here’s What You Need to Know to Catch Up

Posted by on Jan 30, 2020 in Couples Counseling For One | Comments Off on Haven’t Dated in a While? Here’s What You Need to Know to Catch Up

Starting to date again after the end of a long-term relationship can seem daunting. For those who haven’t dated in a while, things have changed and it’s time to play catch-up. Here are five important tips to consider when starting to date again. Heterosexual and Same-Sex Couples Meet Differently Interestingly, the ways that heterosexual couples vs. same-sex couples meet varies greatly. Here are a few statistics to ponder. For heterosexual couples: 30% meet from encounters in their daily lives (work, school, etc.)Less than 30% meet through...

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Online Dating—Does It Really Work?

Posted by on Jan 15, 2020 in Couples Counseling For One | Comments Off on Online Dating—Does It Really Work?

It’s been 25 years since Match.com started the first online dating site in 1995. Now, according to Forbes, there are about 2,500 dating sites available in the United States, with more being added every year.  One of the big advantages of online dating is that is less daunting than meeting people in other ways. It takes much less time and energy to swipe left or right than it does to meet potential partners in real life. But does online dating really work?   Acceptance vs. Reality Despite the widespread acceptance and popularity of...

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