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Why Couples Should Have a Shared Life Contract

Posted by on Oct 31, 2019 in Couples Counseling | 0 comments

Couples usually have some general plan for the future, but they don’t always anticipate potential unexpected events. Geographic relocation, layoffs, or a new baby can throw a wrench in those plans and cause couples to struggle with relationship problems. Couples who best navigate these issues have discovered and mapped out a plan for their future together. This comes in the form of a shared life contract. The contract explicitly outlines what their goals are and what direction they want their life to take as a couple. Designing a shared life...

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5 Truths about Relationships that Every Couple Should Know

Posted by on Oct 15, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on 5 Truths about Relationships that Every Couple Should Know

There are several truths about relationships that virtually everyone knows intuitively already. Owning and embracing these truths is much harder to do. Still, these basic truths can help provide couples with a solid foundation for strengthening their relationships. Here are five truths about relationships that every couple should know: Your Spouse is Not Perfect Having a perfect spouse is not the sign of a great marriage. All people are flawed and have their shortcomings. Dwelling on those shortcomings creates resentment which, in the long...

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When Your Partner Won’t Commit

Posted by on Sep 29, 2019 in Couples Counseling For One | Comments Off on When Your Partner Won’t Commit

Cody and Monica have been together for three years. Monica believes that the relationship is permanent, and has a strong desire to marry and start a family. Cody, however, doesn’t show signs of advancing the relationship. He sometimes alludes to moving forward, but he doesn’t commit to marriage. Yet, when Monica asks about his thoughts about the future, he replies back “Isn’t this good enough?” or “Why mess with what works?” So, obviously Cody and Monica are not on the same page regarding their relationship. Monica wants a committed partner...

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How to Recognize a Serious Problem with Alcohol

Posted by on Sep 15, 2019 in Couples Counseling, Uncategorized | Comments Off on How to Recognize a Serious Problem with Alcohol

Alcohol use disorder, otherwise known as alcoholism, has reached epidemic levels in the United States. It’s potentially life-threatening and greatly affects one’s quality of life. One way this occurs is that alcohol abuse makes it very hard to be emotionally engaged and present in a relationship. It’s also equally difficult to make long-lasting changes in a relationship when someone is drinking heavily or excessively. Key reasons why this is true are that 1) alcohol impairs judgment and 2) it affects how one interacts with other people, even...

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Is Alcohol Causing a Problem in Your Relationship?

Posted by on Sep 1, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on Is Alcohol Causing a Problem in Your Relationship?

A disclaimer:  Alcohol use disorders are not the focus of this article. They are serious issues that require professional help. Alcohol use disorders will be covered more in the next article. With that said, think back on some of the biggest mistakes you’ve made in relationships. Maybe it was something you said to your partner. Or, on the other hand, did you do something that you regretted later? Now consider whether you, your partner or both of you were drinking when those moments occurred. Was alcohol use a positive or negative factor in...

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The Number One Way You Can Protect Your Relationship from an Affair

Posted by on Jul 31, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on The Number One Way You Can Protect Your Relationship from an Affair

Sometimes people are in a committed relationship with their partner, and that partner also happens to be good friends with a coworker or their neighbor. On the surface, everything seems okay. Perhaps they eat together during breaks or are on the same neighborhood co-op board.  Yet, for their partners, there is still some concern. They may be worried that their partner is drifting away from them towards this other person in their life. Sometimes, they worry that there may even be a physical or sexual attachment to that relationship too....

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Are Open Relationships a Problem?

Posted by on Jul 15, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on Are Open Relationships a Problem?

Society is evolving in a lot of ways, especially in regards to its attitudes about relationships and the behaviors of young adults (people in their teens and 20s). The kinds of relationships that these people are seeking is a lot broader and diverse than found in previous generations. Today’s young adult is more willing to form intimate relationships based on their own terms, not society’s. This includes entering into more open relationships. The reasoning for this is simple:  to create more emotional connection with one another....

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What You Can Expect from a Couples Therapist

Posted by on Jun 30, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on What You Can Expect from a Couples Therapist

There are three factors that determine how successful couples therapy will be. These include the level of commitment to the relationshipa willingness to make changeswork with a couples therapist However, finding a good and useful therapist can be a challenge if you don’t know what to look for. Consider the following : 7 Traits in a Knowledgeable & Effective Couples Therapist 1. A Firm Hold on the Reins First, a couples therapist will have a firm hold on the reins of a therapy session. This is so that they don’t get sucked in to...

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7 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

Posted by on Jun 15, 2019 in Couples Counseling | Comments Off on 7 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

A lot of times people will look to blame their partner for problems in the relationship.  Yet, they rarely, if ever, reflect on how their actions have also caused trouble. After all, it’s easier to pin the blame on your partner than it is to see your actions in the light of day. If you think this might apply to you, consider these 7 signs your relationship is in trouble. 1. You React with Anger to Feedback The first sign that your relationship is in trouble is when you react angrily to feedback from your partner. When your partner gives...

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Parental Alienation Part III: What Targeted Parents Can Do About Alienation

Posted by on May 30, 2019 in Healthy Separation and/or Divorce Counseling | Comments Off on Parental Alienation Part III: What Targeted Parents Can Do About Alienation

In this final part of our three-part series on alienation, we are going to discuss what targeted parents can do about alienation between themselves and their children. As mentioned before, we can define alienation as a situation where one parent attempts to undermine the authority, connection, and relationship of the other parent and their children. This can occur with parents who are separated or divorced and who both have visitation rights or joint custody of their children. It is a painful experience for any targeted parent to have to...

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