5 Essential Tips for Successful Online Dating

Posted by on Nov 30, 2014 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 5 Essential Tips for Successful Online Dating

Online dating is a pretty common way to meet potential partners today. Whatever your interest, lifestyle, or habits, specialized online dating sites will help you meet a pool of potential partners you might otherwise never have contact with. Online dating may also be a good option if you live in a rural area or have limited access to a wide variety of unattached dating partners.

On the other hand, having so many choices can feel overwhelming and feel somewhat artificial or fake. The process may actually be stressful and feel like you are “shopping” for a date.

With those factors in mind, perhaps you’re wondering whether online dating is for you. Take some time to consider the following tips for having a successful online dating experience:

  • Be sure you are ready.

If you’ve recently lost a relationship to a separation, divorce, or even death, it is very important to determine whether you are in the right frame of mind for dating.

  • Have you worked through your grief issues?
  • Are you reasonably happy in your life?
  • Do you feel confident about yourself and look forward to reentering the dating world?

Recognize that pursuit of a new relationship is based on more than loneliness. If you sense that loneliness is your primary motivation for online dating, you may not be ready.

  • Be safe.

Find a website that is right fit for you. It is very important that you utilize the privacy settings and security features available to you. Keep in mind that some sites are pay sites and others are free.

Also, weigh the fact that pay sites are likely to be more secure. This is the case, primarily, because clients are obligated to provide payment information and other identity-related material. If you do elect to use a free site, investigate carefully and check reviews. It’s probably best to choose one of the larger, well-known sites.

Once you’ve connected with someone, take the following precautions as well:

  • Use a cell phone rather than a landline, which can be linked to your address.
  • Always meet in a public place, and use separate transportation, until you’re comfortable doing otherwise.
  • Don’t take unnecessary chances. Do take time to determine that he or she is trustworthy.
  • Be yourself.

Research indicates that the vast majority of people exaggerate or outright lie on their dating profiles!

Undoubtedly, you’re better off being as honest as possible. People will figure out the discrepancies between your real self and your online profile pretty quickly as time goes on. Don’t overdo attempts to put your best foot forward. It doesn’t help your relationship situation to deceive people.

Certainly, don’t hide or embellish the goals, values, and lifestyle choices that make you who you are.

  • Take time.

It may take several attempts to find someone that you click with. Keep the following tips in mind:

  • Be patient. This is not a process to hurry.
  • Give yourself time to get to know the real person behind the profile.
  • Communicate beyond the presentation. Do you really like this person?
  • Pay attention to red flags. Listen to your gut. What doesn’t add up?
  • Maintain realistic expectations.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to find “the one.” While it’s true that many online daters are looking for someone significant, it’s better to see dating sites as an initial entry point for meeting potential partners.

Simply view online dating as good dating practice. Dive into a wider, digital dating pool, and expand your social network safely. Embrace this way to screen your options, in your own time.

And don’t forget to have fun!

 

 

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